Make Peace!!:)

"Be Angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:" Ephesians4:26

"In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise." Prov.10:19

"When we see men of a contrary character, we should turn inwards and examine ourselves."-Confucius
Someone has upset you, or offended you.... Do you speak on it or do you let it go??
You have an outright issue with someone....Do you resolve it with them or ignore it??The answers, I believe, are within the above Bible verses. Prov10:19 explains that even though we would like to discuss our feelings, points of view, and differences peacefully....the reality is that that may seldom end up being the case. Naturally, we are going to defend our motives, our judgements, because every man is right in his own eyes. Knowing that life is short and that stress is not to be taken lightly, the Bible says that the man who "lets it go" and keeps his silence is wise. We must choose our battles wisely. Therefore, if possible, it is better to keep silent than to try and make our point known to someone who's views obviously differ on the subject...simply for the sake of truly keeping peace and avoiding the possibility of sin. Now, of course most people will tell you, "If I've done something to offend you, PLEASE let me know...". They may even understand that you simply did not want to argue, but they appreciate it when someone feels comfortable enough with them to be open about any and everything. This is where our "quote of the day" comes into play. If you are wondering why someone didn't feel comfortable with coming to you, perhaps its time to evaluate yourself. Put a mirror up to yourself, review your own actions and ask yourself, "Why didn't this person feel as though they could come to me?" Even a liar, has a reason to lie. Most children lie to their parents, for example, out of fear of getting in trouble. If someone doesn't tell you every time that you've offended them, perhaps your reaction in the past has been something that they are trying desperately to avoid. If I tell my husband, or mother for example that they have offended me in some way, they are usually quickly apologetic. That's not to say that they think that I'm correct, or that they meant to offend me in the first place; it's just that they are letting me know...that they want to be aware of how they make me feel and they respect my feelings...different or not. However, if someone tells you that you've offended them, and you instead try your hardest to convince them of your point of view, and debate even with them...who would feel like going through that over and over again?? People will quickly learn, there is no point in telling you because you're only going to try and make them into you instead of respecting their feelings and being apologetic. Don't be that person...show humility, show respect and others will always feel free to be open and honest with you. Second question's answer and second verse Ephesians4:26 says that you are not to let the sun go down upon your wrath. Never leave and open argument unresolved. (Matt.5:23&24..tells us that God doesn't even want your offerings until you are at peace with those around you.) How can we truly say we love the Lord and hold resentment, bitterness or any uneasiness against one of his children? It is not possible to please God by doing this. (Matt.25:40...Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.) God wants us to treat everyone as we would treat him, because we belong to him, and he loves us, so he feels our pain as well as our joys. Prov. 6:3&4 tells us not to even give sleep to our eyelids before we have humbled ourselves and made peace with everyone. It's tough of course, problems always seem to arise at the most inconvenient of times...we're busy, we're already stressed, or even quite literally about ready for bed...However, God makes it very crystal clear, that we are not to rest until we have resolved all issues with his children and without having done this...our work for the day is not complete...so we are not at liberty to go on to sleep and move on to the next day. The Bible consistently shows how important love and peace are to God and we are to make it a priority in our hearts as well, if we aim to please him. Nothing takes precedence over resolving a matter against one of God's children...and we are all God's children. In the same way, if you see two of God's children having a matter against one another, or not at perfect peace with one another...you are to do your best to either help remind them of their obligation to resolve the issue peacefully, or if you have no positive, Biblical words to share...you are to remain uninvolved and silent. God will not be pleased with those who try to further divide his children, by lying, spreading gossip, stepping inbetween a possible reconciliation, or encouraging any negative feelings in any way. Do your part, wholeheartedly, to make peace so that God may be pleased with you. And in handling all issues, even and especially when deciding which route to take...Ask God for guidance..."He that handleth a matter wisely shall find good: and whoso trusteth in the Lord, happy is he."-Prov.16:20 God will hear you, he will help you, and you will come out stronger and even wiser in the end...Follow his Word, and you can never take a wrong turn. THANK YOU GOD for guiding my path!!:)

God Bless and Be a Blessing to Others:)