Make Peace!!:)

"Be Angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:" Ephesians4:26

"In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise." Prov.10:19

"When we see men of a contrary character, we should turn inwards and examine ourselves."-Confucius
Someone has upset you, or offended you.... Do you speak on it or do you let it go??
You have an outright issue with someone....Do you resolve it with them or ignore it??The answers, I believe, are within the above Bible verses. Prov10:19 explains that even though we would like to discuss our feelings, points of view, and differences peacefully....the reality is that that may seldom end up being the case. Naturally, we are going to defend our motives, our judgements, because every man is right in his own eyes. Knowing that life is short and that stress is not to be taken lightly, the Bible says that the man who "lets it go" and keeps his silence is wise. We must choose our battles wisely. Therefore, if possible, it is better to keep silent than to try and make our point known to someone who's views obviously differ on the subject...simply for the sake of truly keeping peace and avoiding the possibility of sin. Now, of course most people will tell you, "If I've done something to offend you, PLEASE let me know...". They may even understand that you simply did not want to argue, but they appreciate it when someone feels comfortable enough with them to be open about any and everything. This is where our "quote of the day" comes into play. If you are wondering why someone didn't feel comfortable with coming to you, perhaps its time to evaluate yourself. Put a mirror up to yourself, review your own actions and ask yourself, "Why didn't this person feel as though they could come to me?" Even a liar, has a reason to lie. Most children lie to their parents, for example, out of fear of getting in trouble. If someone doesn't tell you every time that you've offended them, perhaps your reaction in the past has been something that they are trying desperately to avoid. If I tell my husband, or mother for example that they have offended me in some way, they are usually quickly apologetic. That's not to say that they think that I'm correct, or that they meant to offend me in the first place; it's just that they are letting me know...that they want to be aware of how they make me feel and they respect my feelings...different or not. However, if someone tells you that you've offended them, and you instead try your hardest to convince them of your point of view, and debate even with them...who would feel like going through that over and over again?? People will quickly learn, there is no point in telling you because you're only going to try and make them into you instead of respecting their feelings and being apologetic. Don't be that person...show humility, show respect and others will always feel free to be open and honest with you. Second question's answer and second verse Ephesians4:26 says that you are not to let the sun go down upon your wrath. Never leave and open argument unresolved. (Matt.5:23&24..tells us that God doesn't even want your offerings until you are at peace with those around you.) How can we truly say we love the Lord and hold resentment, bitterness or any uneasiness against one of his children? It is not possible to please God by doing this. (Matt.25:40...Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.) God wants us to treat everyone as we would treat him, because we belong to him, and he loves us, so he feels our pain as well as our joys. Prov. 6:3&4 tells us not to even give sleep to our eyelids before we have humbled ourselves and made peace with everyone. It's tough of course, problems always seem to arise at the most inconvenient of times...we're busy, we're already stressed, or even quite literally about ready for bed...However, God makes it very crystal clear, that we are not to rest until we have resolved all issues with his children and without having done this...our work for the day is not complete...so we are not at liberty to go on to sleep and move on to the next day. The Bible consistently shows how important love and peace are to God and we are to make it a priority in our hearts as well, if we aim to please him. Nothing takes precedence over resolving a matter against one of God's children...and we are all God's children. In the same way, if you see two of God's children having a matter against one another, or not at perfect peace with one another...you are to do your best to either help remind them of their obligation to resolve the issue peacefully, or if you have no positive, Biblical words to share...you are to remain uninvolved and silent. God will not be pleased with those who try to further divide his children, by lying, spreading gossip, stepping inbetween a possible reconciliation, or encouraging any negative feelings in any way. Do your part, wholeheartedly, to make peace so that God may be pleased with you. And in handling all issues, even and especially when deciding which route to take...Ask God for guidance..."He that handleth a matter wisely shall find good: and whoso trusteth in the Lord, happy is he."-Prov.16:20 God will hear you, he will help you, and you will come out stronger and even wiser in the end...Follow his Word, and you can never take a wrong turn. THANK YOU GOD for guiding my path!!:)

God Bless and Be a Blessing to Others:)

Searching for Love...

So many people are searching for love these days everywhere and anywhere. There are thousands of dating websites and even tv shows based on how to find love and how to act to supposedly attract your "perfect person". I feel so bad for these people that are looking so hard in so many of the wrong places and in the wrong ways. Love is a wonderful thing if you've ever truly experienced the real thing. However, with true love, you do not have to search for it; true love will surely find you. There is also no need to change the way you talk or dress or act, as some of the shows on tv will make you believe. For every individual person, there is someone out there who will appreciate every strange, unique behavior about them. Even personality traits that some of us see as obvious "flaws" like being controlling, or being a gold-digger for example. Believe it or not, there is someone out there that truly wants to be controlled, and there is also someone out there who may not have the time of day to dedicate themselves fully emotionally in a relationship, yet would love to spend endless amounts of money on that "gold digger". These traits may not sound like the make-up of a healthy relationship to the majority of us, but in all actuality, who exactly can define what's healthy, normal or otherwise? I consider my husband to be "perfect for me". That's not at all to say that he is without flaws; it's just to say that his flaws work well with my personality and we complement each other. He is somehow able to handle all of my flaws as well and for me, he's what's perfect.
One will never be able to find their true soul mate if they are not being true to themselves. When you go out on a first date, you should never feel like you are on an interview. At job interviews we often try our hardest to put our best face forward and are honestly somewhat "fake". Not that you should pour all your flaws out on the table within the first hour, but simply be yourself! I know that that may sound so cliche, but it is so very true. If I were to act like my friend on a date and a guy really enjoyed the date and wanted to go out again, I would have to know that he didn't really like me at all... he liked that friend that I imitated. What good would that ever do me? Be confident instead with yourself. If you have boundaries, or standards that you feel strongly about, do not compromise them for anyone. All that you can give of yourself is what you have; simply stated. You must know that if someone doesn't like what you have to offer in looks, personality, financially or otherwise, then that person is just not for you. Honestly, you are better off without them because when we try to mold ourselves into what we think is a likable person, we are trying too hard to please others and make someone else happy. Down the line you will realize that if you do this, it will be you who is unhappy, resulting in yet another failed relationship. So put yourself out there for the world to see, all of your quirky, strange habits and interests. I believe you will be very surprised at who is actually interested in how amazing you are. Most importantly...what is meant for us will come to us. Don't rush love or anything else, all good things are worth waiting for; God does know what he is doing and he knows when you are ready for love, but know that it won't be until you can truly love yourself.
God Bless Always and remember to be a blessing to others.

After the fighting, there can still be love

Although it is very quiet all around me, I can hear so many sounds. I can hear the thousands of thoughts racing through my mind as I try so hard to calm my anger, my frustration. How is that after so many years my love, my friend, my husband can still not fully understand me?! Of course my initial reaction is to be hurt and argue and then I want to run away. I want to avoid even seeing him so that I don't feel compelled to speak to him. I convince myself, if only for a moment, that I can't stand him and that we are not at all compatible. Then, I cry myself to sleep from the pain of being so lonely without him. Not that I couldn't literally be without him, but just the simple thought of knowing that emotionally I am trying to disconnect from my soul mate, the other half of my heart, it pains me much too deeply. When I awake from a very hard slumber that lasts hours in the middle of a sunshiny day, my mind is refreshed and somehow refocused. I realize that of course I love this man, that's exactly why it hurts so bad when we disagree, when I feel like he doesn't understand me. I learn over time that we are indeed two very different people and yet it is our differences that draw us closer to one another. I could never expect for him to think and act identical to me because then he would have nothing of interest to offer me. I fell in love with him because of his different views on things and I love that he's not afraid to challenge me on my views. This is what happens in relationships. People disagree, we argue but it's how we handle things after we've "awaken from our slumber" and after our minds refocus. Too often people feel that after one too many arguments it's time to call it quits and that there can be no reconciliation. These same people then find themselves wondering why they fail to have successful relationships time and time again. It's a simple answer really. You can never grow together if you never endure anything together. Being that we are different people, we are bound to disagree sometimes and since most of us want to be in control or just be right, we often argue with someone who sees things differently from us. Instead, each disagreement should be a learning experience and we should appreciate an honest opinion other than our own from time to time. Not agreeing on every single issue should never result in the ending of a relationship, unless you intend on forever being single. Choose your battles wisely and when you must gear up and fight...fight fair and remember that in the end you will still be friends so burn no bridges and keep the love flowing. The more you endure together, the more intense the relationship will become. Remember: No matter how much someone urks your last nerve, when you love them it is NEVER okay to physically harm them in any way.
God Bless Always and remember to be a blessing to others.