Searching for Love...

So many people are searching for love these days everywhere and anywhere. There are thousands of dating websites and even tv shows based on how to find love and how to act to supposedly attract your "perfect person". I feel so bad for these people that are looking so hard in so many of the wrong places and in the wrong ways. Love is a wonderful thing if you've ever truly experienced the real thing. However, with true love, you do not have to search for it; true love will surely find you. There is also no need to change the way you talk or dress or act, as some of the shows on tv will make you believe. For every individual person, there is someone out there who will appreciate every strange, unique behavior about them. Even personality traits that some of us see as obvious "flaws" like being controlling, or being a gold-digger for example. Believe it or not, there is someone out there that truly wants to be controlled, and there is also someone out there who may not have the time of day to dedicate themselves fully emotionally in a relationship, yet would love to spend endless amounts of money on that "gold digger". These traits may not sound like the make-up of a healthy relationship to the majority of us, but in all actuality, who exactly can define what's healthy, normal or otherwise? I consider my husband to be "perfect for me". That's not at all to say that he is without flaws; it's just to say that his flaws work well with my personality and we complement each other. He is somehow able to handle all of my flaws as well and for me, he's what's perfect.
One will never be able to find their true soul mate if they are not being true to themselves. When you go out on a first date, you should never feel like you are on an interview. At job interviews we often try our hardest to put our best face forward and are honestly somewhat "fake". Not that you should pour all your flaws out on the table within the first hour, but simply be yourself! I know that that may sound so cliche, but it is so very true. If I were to act like my friend on a date and a guy really enjoyed the date and wanted to go out again, I would have to know that he didn't really like me at all... he liked that friend that I imitated. What good would that ever do me? Be confident instead with yourself. If you have boundaries, or standards that you feel strongly about, do not compromise them for anyone. All that you can give of yourself is what you have; simply stated. You must know that if someone doesn't like what you have to offer in looks, personality, financially or otherwise, then that person is just not for you. Honestly, you are better off without them because when we try to mold ourselves into what we think is a likable person, we are trying too hard to please others and make someone else happy. Down the line you will realize that if you do this, it will be you who is unhappy, resulting in yet another failed relationship. So put yourself out there for the world to see, all of your quirky, strange habits and interests. I believe you will be very surprised at who is actually interested in how amazing you are. Most importantly...what is meant for us will come to us. Don't rush love or anything else, all good things are worth waiting for; God does know what he is doing and he knows when you are ready for love, but know that it won't be until you can truly love yourself.
God Bless Always and remember to be a blessing to others.