Searching for Love...

So many people are searching for love these days everywhere and anywhere. There are thousands of dating websites and even tv shows based on how to find love and how to act to supposedly attract your "perfect person". I feel so bad for these people that are looking so hard in so many of the wrong places and in the wrong ways. Love is a wonderful thing if you've ever truly experienced the real thing. However, with true love, you do not have to search for it; true love will surely find you. There is also no need to change the way you talk or dress or act, as some of the shows on tv will make you believe. For every individual person, there is someone out there who will appreciate every strange, unique behavior about them. Even personality traits that some of us see as obvious "flaws" like being controlling, or being a gold-digger for example. Believe it or not, there is someone out there that truly wants to be controlled, and there is also someone out there who may not have the time of day to dedicate themselves fully emotionally in a relationship, yet would love to spend endless amounts of money on that "gold digger". These traits may not sound like the make-up of a healthy relationship to the majority of us, but in all actuality, who exactly can define what's healthy, normal or otherwise? I consider my husband to be "perfect for me". That's not at all to say that he is without flaws; it's just to say that his flaws work well with my personality and we complement each other. He is somehow able to handle all of my flaws as well and for me, he's what's perfect.
One will never be able to find their true soul mate if they are not being true to themselves. When you go out on a first date, you should never feel like you are on an interview. At job interviews we often try our hardest to put our best face forward and are honestly somewhat "fake". Not that you should pour all your flaws out on the table within the first hour, but simply be yourself! I know that that may sound so cliche, but it is so very true. If I were to act like my friend on a date and a guy really enjoyed the date and wanted to go out again, I would have to know that he didn't really like me at all... he liked that friend that I imitated. What good would that ever do me? Be confident instead with yourself. If you have boundaries, or standards that you feel strongly about, do not compromise them for anyone. All that you can give of yourself is what you have; simply stated. You must know that if someone doesn't like what you have to offer in looks, personality, financially or otherwise, then that person is just not for you. Honestly, you are better off without them because when we try to mold ourselves into what we think is a likable person, we are trying too hard to please others and make someone else happy. Down the line you will realize that if you do this, it will be you who is unhappy, resulting in yet another failed relationship. So put yourself out there for the world to see, all of your quirky, strange habits and interests. I believe you will be very surprised at who is actually interested in how amazing you are. Most importantly...what is meant for us will come to us. Don't rush love or anything else, all good things are worth waiting for; God does know what he is doing and he knows when you are ready for love, but know that it won't be until you can truly love yourself.
God Bless Always and remember to be a blessing to others.

After the fighting, there can still be love

Although it is very quiet all around me, I can hear so many sounds. I can hear the thousands of thoughts racing through my mind as I try so hard to calm my anger, my frustration. How is that after so many years my love, my friend, my husband can still not fully understand me?! Of course my initial reaction is to be hurt and argue and then I want to run away. I want to avoid even seeing him so that I don't feel compelled to speak to him. I convince myself, if only for a moment, that I can't stand him and that we are not at all compatible. Then, I cry myself to sleep from the pain of being so lonely without him. Not that I couldn't literally be without him, but just the simple thought of knowing that emotionally I am trying to disconnect from my soul mate, the other half of my heart, it pains me much too deeply. When I awake from a very hard slumber that lasts hours in the middle of a sunshiny day, my mind is refreshed and somehow refocused. I realize that of course I love this man, that's exactly why it hurts so bad when we disagree, when I feel like he doesn't understand me. I learn over time that we are indeed two very different people and yet it is our differences that draw us closer to one another. I could never expect for him to think and act identical to me because then he would have nothing of interest to offer me. I fell in love with him because of his different views on things and I love that he's not afraid to challenge me on my views. This is what happens in relationships. People disagree, we argue but it's how we handle things after we've "awaken from our slumber" and after our minds refocus. Too often people feel that after one too many arguments it's time to call it quits and that there can be no reconciliation. These same people then find themselves wondering why they fail to have successful relationships time and time again. It's a simple answer really. You can never grow together if you never endure anything together. Being that we are different people, we are bound to disagree sometimes and since most of us want to be in control or just be right, we often argue with someone who sees things differently from us. Instead, each disagreement should be a learning experience and we should appreciate an honest opinion other than our own from time to time. Not agreeing on every single issue should never result in the ending of a relationship, unless you intend on forever being single. Choose your battles wisely and when you must gear up and fight...fight fair and remember that in the end you will still be friends so burn no bridges and keep the love flowing. The more you endure together, the more intense the relationship will become. Remember: No matter how much someone urks your last nerve, when you love them it is NEVER okay to physically harm them in any way.
God Bless Always and remember to be a blessing to others.

Let your Passion be your Profession

Here I sit alone in my home wondering. I wonder what life is all about and what exactly it is that God has in store for me. I wonder why my life has always been so crazy and why at such a young age, I have already experienced so very much. I am one those people that truly believe that you will never honestly feel balanced, complete, and happy until you are doing what it is that the Lord has intended for you to do. I guess that would explain my constant "job-hopping". When I look at my everyday activities and try to figure out just what exactly I feel compelled to do... the answer always remains the same. I simply want to help people. A doctor may seem nice, I even started studying psychology in college, however something just still didn't "feel" right. So, here I begin this journey; I love to write, I love to talk, I love to give advice and maybe, somehow, that can help someone out there.
We all have God-given talents that we sometimes ignore, and sometimes hide from the world using these talents as a simple hobby or pasttime. What we fail to realize is that our lives are not meant to fit into some simple mold where we live the same monotonous existence as everyone else around us. We are all created with some unique talent that we are supposed to exercise and grow and use to "write" our stories. Some of us look at our flaws as a downfall or as something holding us back from achieving our goals. When will we realize that those same so-called flaws are our signature? They make us stand out from others and if we learn to embrace every ounce of ourselves, flaws and all, what a difference we may be able to make on the world!! I encourage everyone today to look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself, "I am wonderfully, perfectly, and uniquely made!!" There is no one else in the world quite like you and therefore, no one else in the world can offer what it is that you have to offer. Stop short-changing yourself by hiding your talents and show them off instead. In today's economy, so many of us are searching for ways out of a simple 9-5 job and looking instead for more creative ways to consistently earn good money. I guarantee that we can all look within ourselves and find that thing, that way to do what it is we enjoy and even earn a living off of it. The key is simply confidence. Believe in yourself and acknowledge your gifts/talents and then be bold enough to share them with others. The rest will take care of itself and you'll be surprised that all the while you were searching for that miracle... God had already prepped you with all the tools you needed to make it happen!!
God Bless Always and remember to be a blessing to others.